Strengthen Your Relationship.
Deepen Your Intimacy.
Feeling Stuck and Disconnected in Your Relationship?
You don’t have to keep having the same fight. And you don’t have to keep feeling like roommates in your own home.
I help busy parents and couples navigating the transition to parenthood learn to repair, reconnect, and feel like a team again.
In-Person and Virtual Couples Therapy and Relationship Counselling Across Hong Kong.
My practice may be a good fit if you’re looking for:
✔ Experienced couples support: Extensive experience in couples therapy and marriage counselling, with additional training in intimacy and sexual difficulties, affair recovery, and discernment counselling.
✔ Understanding across cultures: Having grown up in Hong Kong and lived in Canada for 23 years, I bring a strong understanding of Chinese and Western cultural contexts.
✔ Support for intercultural relationships: A particular interest in helping partners navigate cultural differences, informed by my own Hong Kong–French marriage.
✔ A direct, curious, and collaborative approach: A supportive therapeutic relationship with thoughtful, clear feedback on patterns that may be keeping you stuck.
✔ Trauma-informed, culturally responsive care: Attention to emotional safety, personal history, and differences in communication, values, and family roles.
✔ Support through fertility challenges, pregnancy, and postpartum adjustment: Professional training in perinatal mental health, alongside lived experience of fertility challenges, pregnancy loss, and parenting two young children.
It’s Okay to Feel Unsure
Starting couples therapy can bring up a lot of questions. You may be wondering:
Is it really bad enough?
What if therapy makes things worse?
What if my partner isn’t fully ready?
These concerns are common and completely understandable.
Our role is not to take sides or push you toward any particular outcome. We move at a pace that feels emotionally manageable and create space for both partners to feel heard.
You don’t have to be fully certain to begin. A first conversation can simply help you explore whether this feels like the right next step.
Shirley Hung-Truchot, MSW, RSW
Founder, Registered Social Worker, and
Couples Therapist
Hello, I am Shirley Hung-Truchot, a Canada-trained Couples Therapist and the founder of Couples Connect Hong Kong.
With over 10 years of extensive experience supporting individuals and couples through a wide range of relationship challenges, I am particularly passionate about supporting busy and intentional couples who are on the family building journey and raising young children.
As an Asian Couples Therapist in an intercultural marriage and a mother of two, I’ve personally experienced the immense joy and the tough transitions that come with parenthood. Becoming a parent fundamentally changed my relationship dynamic, and this is why I built a practice focused specifically on busy, intentional parents — so couples like the ones on my couch don’t have to go through relationship challenges alone.
I’m passionate about helping busy couples strengthen their connection by breaking negative patterns and learning to respond to one another with empathy and curiosity. My hope is to empower busy couples to build a fulfilling relationship where both partners feel truly seen and valued.
I invite you to book a free 15-minute discovery call with me to see if we are a good fit to work together.
My Approach
My style is warm, curious, and collaborative. I am Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) which is an evidence-based approach that has been researched for over 30 years. EFT helps couples understand the deeper emotions that are driving their predictable negative patterns and help couples to reconnect and create a more secure bond.
I also integrate Gottman Therapy which offers practical, research-based relationship tools to improve communication, manage conflict, and strengthen friendship. In addition, I apply key principles from sex therapy to provide a personalized approach for each couple I work with.
I value diversity and adopt a trauma-informed, culturally responsive approach in working with individuals with racialized identities or intercultural relationships. My hope is to empower couples to build a relationship where they feel seen and valued.
Counselling Services
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Whether you’re single, feeling disconnected in your relationship, or healing from a breakup, individual relationship counselling can help you explore your feelings, understand your attachment style, break through unhealthy patterns in past relationships, and develop more meaningful connections with yourself and others.
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Couples therapy helps you improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen emotional connection and physical intimacy. It provides a safe space to understand yourself better - what triggers you, how you react and get defensive, how you protect yourself at times of stress and conflict.
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Marriage is a beautiful journey that also comes with challenges—especially when couples move through different life stages—relocating, changing careers, trying to conceive, becoming new parents, raising young children, or caring for aging parents. Even strong couples can struggle during these transitions with more responsibilities and more decisions to be made. Your differences in values and beliefs may surface in ways they haven’t before.
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Premarital counselling is a proactive approach designed to help couples build a strong, lasting relationship. This short-term counselling focuses on equipping couples with essential relationship skills, identifying strengths, and addressing potential challenges to create a solid foundation for the future.
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Infidelity shakes the foundation of a relationship, leaving behind pain, confusion, and uncertainty. No matter where you are on this journey, affair recovery therapy in a safe space can help you process the pain and emotions, manage intrusive thoughts and triggers, improve communication, and break past unhealthy patterns. With the right support, couples can reconnect, rebuild trust and emotional safety. Healing is possible.
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Are you and your partner considering a separation or divorce but not sure if it is the right decision? Discernment Counselling is designed to support couples where one partner is motivated in repairing the relationship while the other is ambivalent and uncertain. It is a short-term counselling approach to guide couples toward greater clarity and confidence about what direction to take for your relationship based on a deeper understanding of what has happened to your relationship and each person’s contributions to the problems. The goal is not to solve the problems in the relationship, but to see if they are solvable.
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Sexual intimacy is an important part of many relationships—but it can also create stress, disconnection, or even conflicts. If you’re struggling with issues like mismatched libidos, lack of desire, painful intercourse, or erectile dysfunction, I offer a safe, compassionate, and non-judgmental space to explore your concerns and needs together.
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Whether you’re navigating fertility challenges, coping with pregnancy anxiety, or adjusting to life as a new parent, you don’t have to go through it alone. I offer both individual counselling and couples therapy in a safe and supportive environment to support women and new parents to explore emotional experiences and the big transitions that come with building a family.
Taking the First Step Can Feel Uncertain
Reaching out for therapy often comes during a difficult moment. It takes courage and vulnerability. It’s normal to feel unsure or wonder whether things are “bad enough.”
You don’t both have to be completely certain about therapy to begin exploring your options.
How to Get Started
Please fill out the contact form, and we will contact you within 1 business day.
What is a free 15‑minute complimentary consultation?
We’ll briefly discuss what’s bringing you to therapy
We’ll explain how we work and our approach
You can ask questions
The call is simply a space to explore whether therapy is the right next step for you.
Contact Information
Frequently Asked Questions
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Couples across Hong Kong seek therapy for many reasons. Some say, “We keep having the same fight,” or “We feel more like roommates than partners.” Others feel distant, exhausted by conflict, or unsure how things became so strained.
Common concerns include communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection, recurring conflict, parenting differences, boundaries with extended family, trust issues, healing after infidelity, fertility challenges, and navigating cultural or value differences.
Couples therapy helps you understand the patterns underneath these struggles so you can reconnect in a way that feels safe and meaningful.
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If you’re wondering whether things are “bad enough,” you don’t have to wait for a crisis. Many couples in Hong Kong seek therapy proactively to strengthen their relationship before challenges escalate, or to navigate life transitions more intentionally.
If you feel stuck in the same arguments, disconnected despite loving each other, or unsure how to move forward, couples therapy can provide a safe and supportive space to break unhealthy patterns, heal from past hurts, and deepen your emotional connection.
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Not at all. While some couples come in during difficult periods, many couples seek support to deepen connection and prevent small issues from becoming larger ones.
Therapy helps couples improve communication, increase understanding, deepen emotional connection, and navigate life transitions as a team. You don’t have to wait till things become overwhelming or broken to seek help.
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Most couples don’t come to therapy because they don’t love each other. They come because they feel stuck in patterns they don’t know how to stop.
You may notice that one of you pursues for closeness while the other withdraws. Or that small disagreements quickly escalate into the same painful fight. Over time, both partners can feel lonely, misunderstood, or emotionally unsafe even while caring deeply about each other.
In couples therapy, we slow these moments down. We look beneath the conflict to understand the emotions and attachment needs driving each reaction. Rather than focusing only on communication techniques, we work to create new emotional experiences where both partners feel seen, heard, and safe.
We integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method to help couples move from reactive cycles toward a more secure, responsive bond.
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We offer couples therapy sessions virtually across Hong Kong.
In your first couples therapy session, we focus on understanding your relationship story and what has brought you to counselling at this time. Both partners have space to share their concerns, frustrations, and hopes for change.
Many couples worry that the therapist will take sides or assign blame. Our role is to create a safe, balanced environment where each partner feels heard, respected, and understood.
The first session typically includes:
Exploring your relationship history
Identifying current challenges
Clarifying goals for therapy
Outlining a plan for next steps
By the end of the session, most couples feel a clearer sense of direction and relief that they don’t have to navigate these challenges alone.
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It’s completely normal to feel nervous before the first session. Some couples worry that therapy will make things worse, open old wounds, or confirm their worst fears about the relationship. My role is to help create enough safety and help you move at a pace that feels emotionally manageable, so that difficult conversations feel contained and productive rather than overwhelming.
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The length of therapy depends on your goals and the complexity of the challenges you’re facing. Many couples find that 8–12 weekly sessions create meaningful and lasting change.
Some couples benefit from a Couples Intensive format (3–6 hours), which allows for deeper exploration and accelerated progress.
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It’s common for one partner to feel more ready than the other. While couples therapy works best when both partners participate, individual relationship counselling can still be helpful.
Working with an individual relationship therapist who understands relationship dynamics can help you gain clarity, change unhealthy patterns, and determine next steps even if your partner isn’t ready yet.
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My style is warm, curious, and collaborative. I provide evidence-based couples therapy in Hong Kong integrating two well-researched approaches: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method.
EFT helps couples understand the deeper emotions and attachment needs driving their negative patterns. Rather than focusing only on surface conflict, it works to create new emotional experiences that strengthen safety and connection.
The Gottman Method offers research-based tools to improve communication, manage conflict more effectively, and strengthen friendship within the relationship.
By integrating both approaches, we help couples not only understand why they get stuck but also develop practical ways to reconnect and move forward.
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Yes. We offer a complimentary 15-minute consultation for couples across Hong Kong to answer your questions and help you determine whether couples therapy feels like the right fit.
Many couples feel unsure about where to start or worry about being judged. A consultation gives you the opportunity to ask about the therapy process, our approach, and what to expect — without pressure or obligation.
It’s a low-risk way to explore your options before committing to ongoing sessions.
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Most couples choose weekly 50-minute sessions, while some opt for a Couples Intensive format (3–6 hours) for more focused and accelerated progress.
We understand that investing in therapy is a meaningful financial decision. Our goal is to provide high-quality, evidence-based couples therapy using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method to create lasting change.
If you’re unsure about next steps, we offer a complimentary 15-minute consultation to answer your questions and help you determine whether couples therapy feels like the right fit.
$1,800 - Individual therapy · 50 mins$2,500 - Couples therapy · 75 mins